Friends Are Too Welcomed

[Danielle]

  i'm wondering when manners are going to kick in..as all you know, summertime is a time where our kids get to spend a lot of time with thier friends..i embrace thier wants to be surrounded by activities with these friends, and i do whatever it takes to make sure thier day is fullfilled with time with them. but im getting a little agiatatied at my children' s friends  manners. they ring my doorbell repeately while we are still asleep. they make themselves at home by getting snacks and drinks, without asking, shoudnt they at least be courteious and ask, i teach my children to always be considerate and always ask before just taking, i love for these children to visit, they are like my own,,,,,but enough s enough, what do all think?

[emsplace]

I think you need to set boundaries with their parents and with them.
My neighbor came over at 9:30 because it is summer and she had her kids with her... Um, I have a four year old and I have asked her not to come after like 7pm. She thinks I'm too strict, I don't care. I mean, my house has to be sane... Ya know.  I let her in that one time and they stayed till 10:45pm when my son had a complete meltdown. It won't happen again, I assure you.
That sounds mean, but it's your home. I was very nice when I spoke with her about it.
Wouldn't it be nice if we could put a "do not disturb" thing on the door and ask people not to knock/ring the bell when it is up.
hmmmmmmmmm

[Audrey]

I have to agree. It's your home, you make the rules. Just like I mentioned in my other post, make the rule, let folks know and then sitck to it. If someone forgets, remind them. Don't give in, just remind them of the rule. After a while, they'll believe you.

[Danielle]

   so glad i will be out-town-for a few days... they will have to find somewhere else to play! was that ugly??

[Audrey]

When you come back, maybe you'll make some new rules

[emsplace]

While out of town... write lines "I will set some boundaries. I will set some boundaries..."
hahaha
I'm only half playing with you.
Take care and have a great vacation!

[Danielle]

  things will have to be diffrent when i come back, otherwise, i WILL go insane  i think i will be ready to set and deal with new rules when i get back. something about vaction time, it allows you to have time to think about certain issues, am i right?