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« on: August 22, 2008, 09:50:22 AM »

OK. So I move into a neighborhood thinking it is a nice neighborhood. When we moved in, there were two series of homes - Inspiration/Destination. We chose the higher end. Our whole side of the neighborhood was supposed to be higher end. We got a good deal, but we have all the paperwork that says all around us would be higher end. Enter Market Crash. So now, we have people around us with way less expensive homes and one in particular who is building, but honeslty does not know if she can afford it.
But that isn't the rude part. OK... so she and her family are totally clampets moving to Beverly! I'm sorry, but that is the nicest way to describe them. PLUS... she has two sets of friends moving to our block too... complete with daisy duke shorts and no teeth... I'm not kidding.
But that is not the rude part... how about she comes over here every day... sometimes twice a day.... and buts into our conversations, puts us all down... tells us we don't have as much cabinets as her friend (meanwhile, we all looked while they were building, and a few of us have at least double what they both have just because of the layout of our kitchens). She has gone out of her way to put down several of our brick color choices, our appliance choices, cabinet color choices, etc... and landscaping too... and has even made fun of me for having my four year old on a schedule. She came knocking at 9pm one night because her daughter needed to potty and after I had done so nicely a few times, my husband finally said "get out" at about 10:30pm.  And I explained that my son was on a schedule - she was like - "lighten up, it's summer"... OK.. he's FOUR!  Her friend moving to the end of the street didn't get a fireplace because they are afraid their 11/13 year old boys will burn the house down. And asked us if they could give us their numbers because they work nights and just in case we saw their kids vandalizing anything, could we call them instead of the police"... And they were all making comments about what their children would be teaching ours.... so now, we are all trying to figure out how to avoid them and they are not even here yet... They move here next week. We're wanting to sell!
UGH'

What can we do?  We have all had annoying neighbors, but I have never dealt with such blatantly horrid people as neighbors and I was wondering if you had any advise.

Em
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« Reply #1 on: August 22, 2008, 05:31:54 PM »

I noticed several people read this but no one posted. I hope it hasn't offended anyone or anything.
If you have anything to say you are welcome to PM me.
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« Reply #2 on: August 23, 2008, 09:28:49 AM »

Em,

Advice is hard to offer here. It's easy for me to say I'd back way away, not answer the door, ask them to leave etc, however I'm not living there in your shoes.

I would NEVER answer my door at 9pm NEVER.

Other than that, I'm not sure what to say Sad
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« Reply #3 on: August 23, 2008, 11:15:54 AM »

I keep thinking half of me is happy for them because this is the first house they have ever owned and once they get here and stop feeling like they have to prove (by putting down others) that they belong, it will be ok.
I've told her I won't answer my door again that late and made it clear she should not come by late again. I'm hopeful she won't once they get here. AACK
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« Reply #4 on: August 23, 2008, 02:36:08 PM »

Tough one. 
I seriously don't know what I would do in your situation.  Although, it might be time for a heart to heart with her.  She may not "get it" any other way.
Good luck!
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« Reply #5 on: August 24, 2008, 12:27:58 PM »

It's either heart to heart or AVOID!
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« Reply #6 on: August 27, 2008, 08:14:29 PM »

This is a hard one...in all my years I have never heard of this.  I mean I hardly talk to most of my neighbors because they are stuck up,(I'm older, retired and don't drive a BMW)  but this is really an uncomfortable situation for you.

I would keep everything of yours locked up tight.  Have that heart to heart talk, and don't answer your door to her.  If she comes over and interrupts, tell her that unless she has something positive to say, then the conversation doesn't concern her.  If you have to walk away while she is talking.  Meanwhile hope the housing market improves and you can get out of there.

Wow! 
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« Reply #7 on: August 28, 2008, 06:22:14 PM »

I know Nancy and trust me I haven't shared all the details as this is a public board.
But we've collectively decided that going forward if she puts us down or whatever, we are just going to tell her how un-necessary it is and walk away. We are also not going to allowe her children to be rude or bad influences on our children.... and we are all truly, very hopeful that this has just been a bad case of nerves and that she is not as bad as she has portrayed herself.
I'm not a BMW driver. We can afford it but it's not my GOAL! lol Some people really love the engineering of a BMW... and some have turned it into status... why would I buy the base BMW when I can have a loaded Ford or other car? It's silly. So I'm not into STATUS, lest I make myself sound horrible for calling her clampet! lol
I'm just an average gal who wants to live in a peaceful & nice neighborhood.  Is that too much to ask?

They move in next week.... AACK!


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« Reply #8 on: August 29, 2008, 12:28:29 PM »

 i'm sorry if I implied that all BMW owners are stuck up...not true.  We too could afford one if we wanted, but my husband worked for Chrysler, so that's kinda out. 

I think you are probably taking the best approach, and hopefully she is not as bad as she has come off.  Keep your fingers crossed that is the case.

My neighbors were complaining about another neighbor who had not cut his grass in a week...they never asked why.  It turns out he was in the hospital with a heart attack.  My husband, who is 70, went over and cut his grass for him, but none of the younger ones even offered, just complained.  That is the type of neighborhood I have.  What happened to neighbors helping neighbors?  Oh well, as my mother used to say...their day will come.

Nancy

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« Reply #9 on: August 29, 2008, 12:58:55 PM »

Well today the other new neighbors stopped by who know her.... and told us all about her. They are doing their walk thru today and just mentioned that she was afraid she'd worn out her welcome.
I figured out the problem today... they said "that is just the way she is"... to me this is a BAD EXCUSE for BAD BEHAVIOUR!  They said "she just doesn't have a filter"... "she hates everything in our house too", etc... but someone ought to tell her to SHUT HER MOUTH!

Anyway... um, I didn't mean to be BENT on BMW Owners either. I'm just saying... "some" and that is all I have to say about that. lol

Wish us luck. They close on the 3rd. God Help Us! And yes ma'am - those people sure will get theirs.

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