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[Linda]

Oh, my gosh...you need to write a book.  on her.  I would totally buy it.  I'm glad you could enjoy a little of your step daughter this summer. 

[MichelleB]

I never thought that I would say it, but I really do hate her.  She's saying that my husband can't see his child on Father's Day, and talking smack to him...
its so dumb and childish, and I feel for him.  She gets this way when she's pregnant, and unfortunately she's pregnant...again, but there's a fine line.  So he's just letting it go-like every other weekend, and she can fight all she wants, but will take her to court if she ends up in contempt of court. I can't wait til we can file for custody!!! argh!

ugh wow yea she sounds super annoying. Very selfish behavior.

[Candid Carrie]

If it is any consolation, my first husband and I were married eleven months during the early eighties.  I got pregnant and we got married because that is what you did in 1981. 

My son's dad was a first class a-hole.  We divorced when son was six months old, custody case lasted three years.  There were two guardian ad litems and three social workers all indicating I should have my son, however the judge ruled in favor of my son's dad.  I was never declared an unfit mother, it was just that nothing "detrimental" had happened to my son during the first three years that my ex- had him. 

I had a local small town lawyer, my ex had a high powered criminal attorney from a big city.  The court room was packed because this was the same attorney that had just represented a few guys with mafia connections and got them off of their charges.  Everyone suspected that the judge was "bought out".  Regardless, I was the first woman in our State that was ordered to pay child support.  Yes, I had to give seventeen percent of my paycheck to my ex.  It gets worse and worse, but that isn't where I mean to be going here. 

Where I am headed is that I did the best with what I had even though I knew it wasn't fair.  I was the most involved non-custodial parent there could have possibly been.  To this day I find out more and more behind the scenes stuff from our court case (like bailiffs being fired for placing bets on the outcome).  But my son will be twenty seven in October.  He has a minimalistic relationship with his father but calls me about ten times a week (that is because he spends a lot of time on the road for his job and uses a cell phone to call me) but because of how things started in the beginning of his life I never actually saw that this could be the end result. 

Our bond was continually challenged by his dad by his dad's tone and attitude and critism for me.  Constantly.  I never bitched, never whined, never asked for more than I was allowed by law and I am the one who prevailed.  My son is still afraid of disappointing his father and I do my best to help with that but I proved my unconditional love during the worst circumstances imaginable. 

This is the first time I have ever told this intimate piece of information, but I hope it helps to give others strength.  Make the most of the minutes you have.  Ultimately, they pay off in the long run.  To this date I have never spoke poorly of his father to him.  He found out all by himself what kind of a jerk his dad is ...

My son had a baby with his fiance a year and a half ago and we were all together for the birthday party.  We made it through.  I was nervous but my granddaughter's birthday party wasn't the worse thing I have ever had to go through with this man. 

Now there will be a wedding in June (yes, I would have liked a slightly different order) and we will all be there together again.  My son has a phenominal sense of family and all I see in him today are how he too rose above adversity.

I hope I offered a little light at the end.  The journey started in 1981 and the rode to the new millenium was hell on earth, but I had the tenacity and prayer power to endure and I have to say I like where I ended up with my son in 2008. 

Once again, we are the sum of all parts and God's plan may not be where we want to go but we will not realize that until we get to the end. 

[Mom2dm]

Oh, I COMPLETELY know how you feel about X-wifes.  Life would just be sooo much easier without them...LOL

[lilmissjenny]

id get her in face and give her shit. she has no right. then again im a bitch like that.

[crazymommaland]

I am also hating the ex wife! The one I deal with is such a B!

[Candid Carrie]

I think the worst part is having to co-parent with an ex-wife that you hate, someone you would never even hang around with as a friend is now allowed to influence your child's life.