more than one child

[Mom2ConnorRyan]

I know the bond can be special because both my husband and I grew up with siblings.  I have 3 and he has 2.  I am still close to my brother the most despite being adults and not always seeing each other regularly.  So we might decide later on.  Thanks Danielle for saying is a personal choice.  THere are so many people once they hear of our decision they go off on this rant about what a tremendous disservice i am doing to my son.  So now when people ask I just say not at this point and time.  I hate how they put it as I am going to screw up my son.  Because he is healthy, happy, and knows he completely loved by both of his parents.  To me that is the most important thing. 

[zimkandace]

I think siblings are great for the children.  My hubs only wanted one boy and since our first was a boy he was done.  I wanted at least one more.  We have a daughter too.  She is a handful and hubs constantly reminds me that is why he only wanted one.  He loves her and she him but more than one is a lot more work.

[nursepine]

I have 5 daughters and there are days that they fight and then days they do not when they were little they never fought they played. Now that they are older 16,17,18 ,20,23 they can fight. But when push comes to shove they protect one another, no matter what

[Kaknu]

I was an only child and absolutely HATED IT!  I've met people that grew up as an only child and liked it, but most of the ones I met would have liked to have a sibling.  For me, it was the household I grew up in.  It would have been mean to add another child, but on the other hand it would have been nice for me. 

I had cousins that I was very close to, but I don't think it's the same.  I only have one baby right now.  Obviously I would like another.  Kurt doesn't want another though 

[Danielle]

i am going on vacation starting tomorrow... a twelve hour trip... this will test me...because i have always said that its great having more than one child, but as only siblings do, they will fight and fuss! so, it will be a challenge for us all!!

[Audrey]

When I was a kid, there were 3 of us. We fought like you would not believe. We used to go on vacations and my dad was always hollering at us LOL.

[Danielle]

   Audrey, there were three  of us too growing up, and we fought too! did any of yall fight over the front seat. my dad died when i was 4, and so it was just my mom and us. so one always got to sit in the front seat. we used to fight so bad about whowas going to sit there. and yes, there were acouple of times our hands and fingers were smashrd because we would slam the door on them beacuse we were mad. maybe that ?
nah, all kids do that kind of stuff!   

[emsplace]

I would love to have more. I only have one son who is four... but due to my age and fertility issues... it may never happen. Plus, my marraige is on the big rocks... so... we'll see. I can always adopt a year after divorce... that is the rule here in Texas. Anywhoooooooo I'd love more...
My son has BEGGED for more for years.

[Danielle]

  i hear ya, when my 2 stop fighting then i will have a nother one, but then again i guess i never will i want one more, maybe the responsablities of another baby will take the focus of them, and thier fighting and they can enjoy having a nother sibling to care for we will see im only 33 i have got plenty of time!!

[Audrey]

No fights over the front seat unless it was just mom and us. I was the oldest so I took the front seat. My siblings did not like that and yes we'd fight.

[mrsbear0309]

  My girls in particular fight ALOT, but even so, every night when they go to bed (they share a room) they always swap "I love yous" after I turn out the lights and leave. Me and my sister fought all the time growing up, but now she's really my best friend, and we have this long shared history nobody else can understand. My boys are still young, so they avoid the major skirmishes and they're always hugging one another. It's sweet.

[StitchingMama]

I'm an only child.  As if that wasn't bad enough, I had no immediate cousins.  All 3 of my aunts didn't have any children.  So, it was tough.  I wanted to make sure that I had to children so they wouldn't be alone.  I have a son and daughter.

They fight as well but I hope that one day they realize that they are lucky to have each other.  But, if something was to happen to the other (picked on, etc.) they do stand up for each other.

Angela

[Nancy]

I had four, one girl the oldest and three boys.  One set of twins in the middle.  One twin and the youngest fought a lot, the other twin was the peacemaker.    My daughter just wanted me to send them all back.  They are now 28, 30,30,35, and get along great.

We had a rule about the front seat, that is really funny because at their ages they do it automatically if we all go out....they take turns.. one day starts with the oldest, the next day with the youngest.  Every time we stop and get out, the next one has a turn.  I remember sometimes if the boys were fighting in the back seat, I would pull over wherever I could that was safe, get out walk around the car, and everyone would have to change seats.  It has worked for over 30 years. 

Nancy

[Audrey]

WAIT!!!!  There was an option to send them back when they were young? LOL.

[Jane @ Kidzarama]

I was an only child, and hated it!  Now I have two boys and hope that they will have a close relationship when they are older.   Of course I expect them to fight, that's just part of living in close quarters with somebody.  My husband and I love each other, but we fight occasionally.    Can't expect the kids to show more maturity than us!

Same here!
Being an only child was extremely lonely for me (even though I love my own company).
Although I knew my friends didn't get along great with their siblings, I always wanted to live in a house that was full of noise, fun and visitors.

I was determined to have more than one child, even though my health makes it really hard at times. We decided to stop at two children because of this.

I'm really lucky that WonderHubby & my mother make such a great support system.

And I'm also really lucky that lately Wren & Mr Bump seem to be getting along so much better, with fewer fights and more co-operation.